getting girls at gigs

[supercobra]

While we play music because we love it, I think the issue of meeting the opposite sex while gigging is an important topic. I'd like to hear your stories of success and failure meeting women on the road. I'm not comming from the perspective of looking at women as a commodity. Its just that, the search for your muse often leads to meeting girls. The gigging situation is often a rich opportunity because it can serve to maximize your appeal. Nothing is as cool as parlaying a strong musical performance into an opportunity to meet someone who really knocks your socks off.

[se77en221]

or someone who will just knock your socks cause your in a band,lol but i guess i see what youre saying

[supercobra]

reply to SE77...

There is a superficial quality to everything, but if you don't at least try to scratch the surface, then the superficial is all you can see.

[se77en221]

well then personally i havent made a relationship with a girl who just thinks im cool for bein in the band, although on the brighter side she may be just the one and it was fate or w/e that made you two there at the same time and havent wanted to, you shouldnt be thinking, "hey i cant wait til' our show tonight i might meet a girl that id love", should be more or less along the lines of "hey i cant wait to perform tonight, its gunna be a blast, i hope the croud loves us", what im trying 2 say is you shouldnt shoot for meeting girls by playing gigs, cause usually the girls you do meet in gigs and wanna go out with you and ect.,arent too real and a lil flaky, cause there only soo interested in you at that time because your 'a guy in the band', and not cause they like who you are or your personality ect.,but if one does come along the way then sure why not cause there are always exceptions, but its nothing you should be shooting for, and anyways i dont think this post should of started in the first place, its a guitar forum not a date line lol, o well and best of luck, cheers

[This message has been edited by se77en221 (edited June 08, 2004).]

[supercobra]

Hey, this is an open topic forum. I think the social aspects of gigging is a very relevant topic. And don't misunderstand, I'm not trying to start a lot of inappropriate chatter.
I appreciate previous response. It sounds like you have something to say about this topic. I didn't expect everyone to have a cherry attitude toward my post.
And you're right about the problematic aspects of it. You can't be sure what someone's intentions are if the context is very far from your regular life. But gigging is an important part of our lives. Let me say this- having a spouse/significant other who dosen't like the gig atmosphere is a real downer. The context of the gig is a factor in any relationship you can start, whether you meet the girl at the gig, or not.

[rodie]

the only gigs i've played were small get togethers and parties, but even at practices when i was drumming, i'd get interesting looks/comments from girls that would hang out (members g/f's, etc.), just because i was the loudest/most active player at the time. most girls at bigger gigs seem to just want bragging rights, so you really have to be careful (all you aspiring gene simmons competitors) we still have aids, herpes, gonorrhea, and a host of other microorganisms that can make one romp ruin the rest of your life...

[supercobra]

true that

[bdemon]

While I've met lots of women at gigs, I've never really had that "groupie" thing in my corner. Usually I meet other singer-songwriters at open mics and end up talking shop. Actually, I did score a date with a woman I'd just met at a gig. She let me take her out to lunch, then blew me off. I found out a few weeks later that she was talking to an ex.

Could be that my music is too weird. http://www.zentao.com/ubb/smilies/smile.gif

[fendersownyou]

No sex till marriage herehttp://www.zentao.com/ubb/smilies/smile.gif

[Keith]

No sex till marriage herehttp://www.zentao.com/ubb/smilies/smile.gif
:eek: :eek: :eek:

[YowhatsupT]

sucks for you dude. gotto respect ya though...more willpower than i got.

[100%TEXAN]

:confused: No sex till marriage herehttp://www.zentao.com/ubb/smilies/smile.gif


You just need to try harder is all . . .


oh wait, you probably are doing that on purpose . . .

Well, I been married (twice) already, so I guess I don't have to wait anymore :smile1: :bounce1:

[fendersownyou]

I'm a pretty religious person so that's why.

[grasshopper]

so - if u got married asap, then divorced, you could go off and...

nevermind, stupid comment

[willy]

No sex till marriage herehttp://www.zentao.com/ubb/smilies/smile.gif

Hmm... I believe you've got that exactly backwards son :_devil:.

[StoneDragon]

That was worth a chuckle :lol:

[Concretekiller]

No sex till marriage herehttp://www.zentao.com/ubb/smilies/smile.gif
I'm with you on that one. -Jason

[ImagineBagism]

To bad it isnt the 80's anymore. then chicks would dig you no matter what if you played.

[dexter30]

No sex till marriage herehttp://www.zentao.com/ubb/smilies/smile.gif

I respect that definitely. But myself, I like to test drive the equipment. I haven't played out yet but even if/when I do it won't matter because I'm happily married. Although previous to being married, I used every angle I could to pick up girls.

[SG_74]

I guess if people wana use giging to pick up chicks, then thats fine. I've played many a gig in my time and have never been approached by anyone of the opposite sex (ok maybe a few convos but thats bout it lol), I dont really think of gigging as an opportunity to get laid...I like making our music known, I used to want to pick up chicks but i've learned that the music is just soooo much more inportant to me...

My gig list of things to do:

Arrive on time...(something us musicians "apparently" have a tremendously bad reputation for...?)
Set up
Play and try not send the audience home clawing at their ears...
Get completely wrecked with any survivors of the show
Go home
Sleep... :P

-< O's >-

[Dr. D]

people wana use giging to pick up chicks, then thats fine

Don't need to be in a band here to get laid, just be breathing. :toohappy: heck last week We had Naked karaoke!

[SG_74]

Don't need to be in a band here to get laid


I know!

I was simply saying that I enjoy playing music more than trying to pick at people from the opposite sex...

Anyways I'm spoken for so thats probly why i've got a harsh view against it...

Sorry if it offended anyone...

-< O's >-

[spideypunk]

This thread is dispicable
:D

[supercobra]

Spidey-
You bet its despicable. But, like the Zappa quote that Stonedragon has attached to his emails, its all about raunch.

[cantdrive55]

My best friend who's a drummer in a successful nor cal band met his current girlfriend at a gig. She's one of the coolest females I've met.

[motorhead_6]

Talking about it in here is a great way to decrease the number of girls you get.

[Brendo613]

:lmao: Ahh, that was a good one. Always helps to ask questions, though :tongue:

=Brendan= :shifty:

[YowhatsupT]

Don't need to be in a band here to get laid, just be breathing. :toohappy: heck last week We had Naked karaoke!


yes well you are a Dr. ...you get to see naked people all the time...good bad or terrible... lol

[octave wha]

hey gents.....to me women are a huge distration at a gig....i mean really if you are up on stage to be a sex symbol.....be a rap star or something drop your guitar and give it to someone who is in need of it.......rock n roll isnt about money and fame and sex its all about the music and expresion........this kind of "im so sexy lets do it now" attitude is exactly what is ruining rock music these days. come guys get your eyes off those women and back on your guitar necks!

"if your on stage to pick up women, get off stage and pick up women"

[bluetrain]

Sex is and has been an integral part of rock and roll, and loose broads are a great fringe benefit of playing onstage. Women who would normally wouldn't give you the time of day suddenly seem interested when your prowling the stage with your guitar or mike stand.

Most people, in my experience, are on stage for the music, but I've met a few who have gotten into it strictly for the purpose of meeting women. It doesn't matter why you do it, just as long as you dig what you're doing.

[thunder_bird]

We have a female vocalist so she just brings her friends hahahahaha

[motorhead_6]

Its not an either or situation. I cant imagine wanting to be looking at chicks while I am playing. Are you guys actually saying that you played in public for money and chicks didnt decend all around you?

[krusadr]

I respect that definitely. But myself, I like to test drive the equipment. I haven't played out yet but even if/when I do it won't matter because I'm happily married. Although previous to being married, I used every angle I could to pick up girls.
Warning - do not read if you are intolerant of other people's views or if you are religious follower to the point where no debate can be allowed. My intent is not to cause a flame war or to upset anyone but to state what I consider to be an important point.

I respect everyones right to an opinion, but I personally have absolutely no respect for the "no sex before marriage" line I'm afriad as I feel that young people who get shackled before they have had some 'life experience' are the ones who mostly end up divorced and usuallly with a whole cart load of kids who suffer enourmously.

I feel religion screws up too many peoples lives already. It places this ridiculous emphasis on sex as being evil. The fact is that religion is a relic of the dark ages when it was used as a way to control and oppress the populace. The ecstacy of the sexual release was a big threat to that domination. It's the same thing with the whole guilt thing of confessionals etc. Pure oppression and in my mind that is evil.

There is nothing wrong with two young people falling in love and enjoying sex. Why should they be forced to commit to each other till death when they are so young and inexperienced just so they can enjoy each others love? There are lessons in life that have to be learnt, like winning and losing, being let down and carrying on etc etc. Human relationships take time to master and young people are really in training for the responsibility of providing a stable environment for the raising of children ie marriage.

A young man should sow his wild oats a bit while he is young (thats what University is for). It is by doing that that he may better appreciate his wife when he does get married and not be looking over his shoulder for the rest of his life. This applies to ladies too. If you marry a woman who has never had another man in her life then sooner or later there's likely to be trouble.

Whats wrong with a little warm-up before the game?

[Terren]

Good one. I agree.

[Weak as Hate]

I agree with you on just about everything you said. But I have also met many a religion nut (married and unmarried) who are happier than a lot of people i know. As long as they don't bother me with thier religion, to each his own...

[YowhatsupT]

Warning - do not read if you are intolerant of other people's views or if you are religious follower to the point where no debate can be allowed. My intent is not to cause a flame war or to upset anyone but to state what I consider to be an important point.

I respect everyones right to an opinion, but I personally have absolutely no respect for the "no sex before marriage" line I'm afriad as I feel that young people who get shackled before they have had some 'life experience' are the ones who mostly end up divorced and usuallly with a whole cart load of kids who suffer enourmously.

I feel religion screws up too many peoples lives already. It places this ridiculous emphasis on sex as being evil. The fact is that religion is a relic of the dark ages when it was used as a way to control and oppress the populace. The ecstacy of the sexual release was a big threat to that domination. It's the same thing with the whole guilt thing of confessionals etc. Pure oppression and in my mind that is evil.

There is nothing wrong with two young people falling in love and enjoying sex. Why should they be forced to commit to each other till death when they are so young and inexperienced just so they can enjoy each others love? There are lessons in life that have to be learnt, like winning and losing, being let down and carrying on etc etc. Human relationships take time to master and young people are really in training for the responsibility of providing a stable environment for the raising of children ie marriage.

A young man should sow his wild oats a bit while he is young (thats what University is for). It is by doing that that he may better appreciate his wife when he does get married and not be looking over his shoulder for the rest of his life. This applies to ladies too. If you marry a woman who has never had another man in her life then sooner or later there's likely to be trouble.

Whats wrong with a little warm-up before the game?


great love it...plus i'm not even sure the bible says not to have sex before marriage....probly wrong on that but hey...its not one of the ten commandments...i think God would understand a little fun...a little life liven

[Ukalali_Solo]

i really love how every post we make now turns into an ideological debate :p ;) :D

i say we stick to the subject cobra presented us with...

(oh and hey TEX!, hows stuff goin?) :D

....anyways :p

While i am dating someone at this very moment (itll be 6 months in about 2 weeks :D :D ).....getting girls is not on my mind rite now at all. But before i met the girl im going out with now, i went to alotta parties and met girls and such, and when it came to getting to know them and just chatting, guitar playing usually came up when they asked things like "so wutcha like to do?", and it always got a positive comment, like "wow guitar players are so hot" or "thats awesome!" or "i like guitar players"...so to an extent i think the guitar playing is a plus to bring up IF u want girls to dig yah

just my two cents

[TeleTristan]

hey gents.....to me women are a huge distration at a gig....i mean really if you are up on stage to be a sex symbol.....be a rap star or something drop your guitar and give it to someone who is in need of it.......rock n roll isnt about money and fame and sex its all about the music and expresion........this kind of "im so sexy lets do it now" attitude is exactly what is ruining rock music these days. come guys get your eyes off those women and back on your guitar necks!

"if your on stage to pick up women, get off stage and pick up women"

ERRR or pick up women on the stage...I dis-agree about RandR not being about $$$ fame and sex...without that constant tension of not having any of the 3 you get the *****ing Eagles..."life in the fast lane" was anything but.
Just my $.02
BTW-Check out any of the original rockers for backup on this
Robert Johnson was killed by his mistresses husband
Chuck Berry videotaped women in his bathroom
Jerry Lee Lewis married his 13 year old cousin
Keith Richards 'nuff said
Eric Clapton wrote Layla about Patty Harrison (George's wife) he was sleeping with her at the time and was afraid all of the world would hate him for doing that to a Beatle.
The term "Rock and Roll" was coined by Alan Freed (SP?) It was used to describe the rocking and rolling of a couple in the act of sexual intercourse.
I love Rock...but when I don't want the guilt of what Rock means or stands for...I listen to Jazz
Peace
T :toohappy:

[Slipstream]

. . . Eric Clapton wrote Layla about Patty Harrison (George's wife) he was sleeping with her at the time and was afraid all of the world would hate him for doing that to a Beatle . . .

I read that EC's love for Pattie Boyd was unrequited (until Pattie and George split). Also, Eric would have been more concerned about what his best friend, George, would think if he slept with her than what the rest of the world would think.

See: http://www.geocities.com/beat1ebum/layla.html

[lonster]

it's nice to get the attention one does when playing gigs and it's hard to paint with a broad brush about it. i will say that it's my opinion that a real deep relationship would be hard to come by with someone who digs you mainly because you can kick out the jams. however, sometimes the music might get you noticed by someone who would not notice how great you are otherwise. it's a balancing act. of course some people could give a ***** less about the deeper things and simply want a little sum-em sum-em to play with. as old, fat and uncute as i am i still get girls who would play around with me because i can entertain on stage. it takes time to mature out of that but it sure is nice until then!!!

[lonster]

Warning - do not read if you are intolerant of other people's views or if you are religious follower to the point where no debate can be allowed. My intent is not to cause a flame war or to upset anyone but to state what I consider to be an important point.

I respect everyones right to an opinion, but I personally have absolutely no respect for the "no sex before marriage" line I'm afriad as I feel that young people who get shackled before they have had some 'life experience' are the ones who mostly end up divorced and usuallly with a whole cart load of kids who suffer enourmously.

I feel religion screws up too many peoples lives already. It places this ridiculous emphasis on sex as being evil. The fact is that religion is a relic of the dark ages when it was used as a way to control and oppress the populace. The ecstacy of the sexual release was a big threat to that domination. It's the same thing with the whole guilt thing of confessionals etc. Pure oppression and in my mind that is evil.

There is nothing wrong with two young people falling in love and enjoying sex. Why should they be forced to commit to each other till death when they are so young and inexperienced just so they can enjoy each others love? There are lessons in life that have to be learnt, like winning and losing, being let down and carrying on etc etc. Human relationships take time to master and young people are really in training for the responsibility of providing a stable environment for the raising of children ie marriage.

A young man should sow his wild oats a bit while he is young (thats what University is for). It is by doing that that he may better appreciate his wife when he does get married and not be looking over his shoulder for the rest of his life. This applies to ladies too. If you marry a woman who has never had another man in her life then sooner or later there's likely to be trouble.

Whats wrong with a little warm-up before the game?

i wasn't offended by what you had to say at all, i hope you feel the same way. there is a reason that religion is against pre-marital sex. it isn't simply to inconvience those with the hots for each other. it because there are consequences for sex, emotional ones and physical ones. sowing one's oats sometimes actually CAUSES one to have to look over their shoulders.

[sermon mode off].......

[TeleTristan]

I read that EC's love for Pattie Boyd was unrequited (until Pattie and George split). Also, Eric would have been more concerned about what his best friend, George, would think if he slept with her than what the rest of the world would think.

See: http://www.geocities.com/beat1ebum/layla.html
Well I can't argue with that...still a pretty Rockstar act though :D
T

[Slipstream]

Yeah, I fell in love with her when I saw her pic :)

[BASSMAN]

You young guys be careful. Sex before marriage caused me a lot of problems, not to mention 18 YEARS of paying for it. Im not against but be careful.

[poppedje]

Very usefull information, thanks :P

[motorhead_6]

{Eric Clapton wrote Layla about Patty Harrison (George's wife) he was sleeping with her at the time and was afraid all of the world would hate him for doing that to a Beatle.}

That has nothing to do with why I hate him. You gotta feel for George. What could be more insulting then being a guitar player and Clapton stealing your woman.

There is nothing wrong with religion. Organized religion is what causes all the problems. As for pre-maritual sex you can argue about it from now untill eternity but the fact is that it has allways happened and it allways will. I dont think that many people who never get married are prepared to live a life of celibacy. Getting married to somebody you dont love just to have sex is not a good idea in my opinion.

[YowhatsupT]

{Eric Clapton wrote Layla about Patty Harrison (George's wife) he was sleeping with her at the time and was afraid all of the world would hate him for doing that to a Beatle.}

That has nothing to do with why I hate him. You gotta feel for George. What could be more insulting then being a guitar player and Clapton stealing your woman.



HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH is that what you think happened. You think George was mad about it? HAHAHAHAHA. This is a true story. and by the way Clapton and Patty never had sex till after patty and george broke up. but neway

At a party Clapton finally got sick of hiding the truth from George. He walked up to george and said something along the lines of "George I love patty" to which george who was sick of patty (she didn't like the rockstar wife life that he was giving her and they weren't getting along) said "sure take her" Patty ran out of the party. Moved out of George's house. Two weeks later had an apartment. and was living on her own. At which point Clapton began pressing. George and Clapton remained BEST FRIENDS. Clapton didn't "steal" Patty he asked for her and George siad hey im sick of her take her. lol George and Clapton were best friends until George died man. Course Clapton loved patty but he still gave her the same life that George had given her. So as a result they divorved in the eighties. That is the story of that litlte dudad.lol

[mr mungbeen]

lol... now that comment I rate!

[t_shirtsnjeans]

"Sex before marriage", Bible, 'fornication', sin.

Sermon button off.

[dkitt]

"Sex before marriage", Bible, 'fornication', sin.

Sermon button off.

Yes, but one can be redeemed by cutting off the offending member.

"And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better to enter into life maimed, than having two hands and go to hell, into the fire that shall never be quenched....And if thy foot offend thee, cut it off: it is better to enter halt into life, than having two feet to be cast into hell, into the fire that shall never be quenched...
And if thy eye offend thee, pluck it out: for it is better for thee
to enter into the kingdom of heaven with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire." Mark 9:43-47

[t_shirtsnjeans]

What are you suggesting cutting off? Kinda like doing the "Bobbitt?
Or de-handing?
Yeah, if your dinky is gonna get you into hell better to cut it off. I agree. And fornication is a sin.

BUT, "we all sin and fall short of the Glory of the Lord,".............me? Guilty as charged.

Sermon button off again.

[dkitt]

What are you suggesting cutting off? Kinda like doing the "Bobbitt?
Or de-handing?
Yeah, if your dinky is gonna get you into hell better to cut it off. I agree. And fornication is a sin.

BUT, "we all sin and fall short of the Glory of the Lord,".............me? Guilty as charged.

Sermon button off again.

But your dinky doesn't get into trouble unless your eyeballs fall into temptation, so we might as well cut them out too while we're at it. :confuse:

[gruzzy]

But your dinky doesn't get into trouble unless your eyeballs fall into temptation, so we might as well cut them out too while we're at it.

...Unless you were blind-folded at the time. ;)

[mr mungbeen]

The only way I can get laid is to climb up a chooks ar$e and wait....

[100%TEXAN]

Gotta second Krusadr! Good rant man.

As for the guitar factor when it comes to chicks, I have my girl and I'm not looking - but I have noticed that, in a lot of cases, you don't even have to play (or play well) to get chicks if they happen to see you with a guitar. The first time I ever played in front of anyone (at a 4th of July party) I was *barely* holding my own and I had a couple of chicks that were just absolutely fawning over me. One of them wanted to take me home (instead of going home with her husband . . .) . It was a really weird feeling actually.

As for the Clapton/Harrison woman dilemma . . . a few years back one of my roommates was dating this chick but wasn’t really into it (other than the fact that he was getting laid regularly). At the same time, she and I were hitting it off famously. I asked him if he minded if I took her off his hands and he told me he was sort of hoping I would. We are still roommates and still friends (have been since back in high school). Don’t know where that chick is today.

Oddly enough, the only person that was ****** about that whole deal was one of our other roommates. He was FLAMINGLY ******. He ranted and raved how guys were not supposed to tag their buddies ex’s (actually I slept with here *before* they were ‘officially’ broken up – still with his ok tho) and all that crap. The ‘unspoken’ rule. Whatever. Turns out that after I dumped her he was on he door step almost every day – trying to get into her pants. *SIGH*

[fish]

Yes, but one can be redeemed by cutting off the offending member.

"And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better to enter into life maimed, than having two hands and go to hell, into the fire that shall never be quenched....And if thy foot offend thee, cut it off: it is better to enter halt into life, than having two feet to be cast into hell, into the fire that shall never be quenched...
And if thy eye offend thee, pluck it out: for it is better for thee
to enter into the kingdom of heaven with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire." Mark 9:43-47

Hold up, so if I punch someone, there goes my hands, if I **** outside of marriage there goes my "dinky":qflash:

How am I suppose to cut off my "dinky" if I've got no hands:qflash:


On a serious note, does the bible not preach redemption:qflash:

[crowbarr]

ah yes, good old merciful god :rolleye:

[mr mungbeen]

please oh please let's not turn this into a religious debate...

[crowbarr]

yeah good idea :)

back on topic please!

so far guitar has brought me no chicks :( its terrible having to rely on my looks

[guitaraholic680]

hahaha man. It will eventually happen... ;-). Just play your heart out, and u'll impress somebody!

[Eclectifish]

Girls was the reason I learned to play. I figured the more I practiced the better I'd be, the more I'd impress them, and the better I'd do in that area (wrong!). The trick is to enjoy yourself on stage, help them to enjoy your music (eye contact), and of course always hang out with the lead singer after the gig because he's always going to be surrounded by 4 or 5 girls and you can get the two that are left over. :)

Actually, I never fared that well in the 'getting girls at gigs' thing, but because of all the practice I got to be a pretty decent player and, in the long run, that's pretty nice in it's own right.

[GuitarGretta]

Ok laugh out loud! Some pretty witty responses here and this is the first time I've read this thread.

How come it doesn't work this way for girl lead guitar players? The best I could hope for is that I got some modicum of respect. And Oh suddenly I can be included in the conversations about music that happen around the bar 'cause there are always musicians there critiquing you. They don't obviously want to **** us because it would be like screwing one of the guys i think. Nothing new. Guys either thought I was great and I could be their best friend, or they hated me 'cause I was better than them and I was a girl. Sigh. The people on this forum don't seem to be sexist. That's nice.

What's funny is the waitresses are total *****es until we get on stage. (3 girls in the band). After that they treat us like they would if we were the "guys" in the band. Pretty fun really, but come on, I'm still the same "*****" that walked in here!

Where I "could have" gotten lucky was with the lesbians. Man they loved us! Bet you guys can't say that!

:smile:

As far as the bible goes, I think Tshirtandjeans has it just right. And god I hope he is right about the redemption thingy.

[crowbarr]

Where I "could have" gotten lucky was with the lesbians. Man they loved us! Bet you guys can't say that!
actually i have a errrm rather bad experience with something similar

this guy saw me playin ma acoustic n came over n started bein all friendly n askin me to play songs for him, naturally i jus figured he was a real friendly guy who liked guitar :) wrong. afterwards his mates came over and errrm kinda told me he was gay .... i wonder why he gave me so much attention :eeksgn:

i think some of the songs i played might have given him the wrong impression, ya know those clapton acoustic pieces :hmmm:

[mr mungbeen]

I think female musos are HOT!

[t_shirtsnjeans]

I think female musos are HOT!
Ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto...............what he said!

I really admire female musicians, it is a tough road for chicks 'cause most guys are intimidated by female guitarists, at least that's how I feel, but then again I feel that way around any guitarist, :p

[fish]

Ok laugh out loud! Some pretty witty responses here and this is the first time I've read this thread.

How come it doesn't work this way for girl lead guitar players? The best I could hope for is that I got some modicum of respect. And Oh suddenly I can be included in the conversations about music that happen around the bar 'cause there are always musicians there critiquing you. They don't obviously want to **** us because it would be like screwing one of the guys i think. Nothing new. Guys either thought I was great and I could be their best friend, or they hated me 'cause I was better than them and I was a girl. Sigh. The people on this forum don't seem to be sexist. That's nice.

What's funny is the waitresses are total *****es until we get on stage. (3 girls in the band). After that they treat us like they would if we were the "guys" in the band. Pretty fun really, but come on, I'm still the same "*****" that walked in here!

Where I "could have" gotten lucky was with the lesbians. Man they loved us! Bet you guys can't say that!

:smile:

As far as the bible goes, I think Tshirtandjeans has it just right. And god I hope he is right about the redemption thingy.


Damn, I love lady guitarists, love them :D

The only reason I can think of women guitarist not getting any is, that the guys are intimidated by you.

Nothing beats a woman with a guitar, nothing :D

[dkitt]

Hold up, so if I punch someone, there goes my hands, if I **** outside of marriage there goes my "dinky":qflash:

How am I suppose to cut off my "dinky" if I've got no hands:qflash:

:

That's the kind of question that gets asked in Islamic court trials very often I'm sure. I saw one on TV once where the defendant was asking the Judge how he was supposed to work and make a living for his family if the court cuts off his hands.

"You'll be punishing not only me but my entire family"

I once came across a encyclopedia of tortures used by the Catholic Church over the past 2000 years, - listed A-Z.

One of the funniest ones was the punishment meted out to errant nuns who had lapsed in their vows of poverty, chastity and obeidiance.

The nun was taken into a room and strapped to a chair. A goat was then brought in and was made to start licking her feet, which had been sprinkled with salt water.

Goats will lick anything salty. :rolleye:

Being as abrasive as 60 grit sandpaper, the goat's tongue would soon start tearing the skin off the nun's feet, causing extreme pain - which would continue until the veil of delusion fell from her eyes and she was at last blessed to gaze upon the cruel picture of her errors.

Glory!

[GuitarGretta]

Ok. One reason I'm not a nun. And as far as people being impressed with girls with guitars I have learned that it IS an advantage and to run with it. The problem is STILL that people think that if a girl is half decent then she is good. Why is that? And then if she is better than you then she is a threat rather than a resource. And I think in my case it has caused me to not be good at the electronics/ physics/ all the stuff that men have to be good at to be considered legitimate. I never really cared because hey, don't ask me, I just know the chords. I am working really hard right now to rectify that. Mostly out of necessasity. And I see on this board that the young girls are getting into their gear and how it is good or bad and why. Very cool.

The cool thing is that I am NOT better than a lot of the people on this board, and strive to learn from them. At least in certain styles. And you guys have been very helpful. As I hope that sometimes I am. As far as female guitar players being hot. Well, I can't help but agree! Damn it! I always pay more attention to gauge their skill against mine. Is it the same for the guys? Do you pay more attention to a girl guitar player? And are you looking at her skill rather than her hottness? And if so, will that change when there are as many female "gods" out there as ther are males? 'Cause I think the time will come soon.

Not that I will be one of them but still...
Yay girl guitarists :toohappy: :toohappy:

[dkitt]

'Cause I think the time will come soon.

Not that I will be one of them but still...
Yay girl guitarists :toohappy: :toohappy:

Well, if this chick http://www.greatkat.com is any indication of the future...:eek:

I'd rather female guitarists model themselves after someone like Joni Mitchell or Nancy Wilson.

[mr mungbeen]

How come it doesn't work this way for girl lead guitar players?


Because chicks don't need guitars to get guys... They just have to ask... ;)

My dream woman has to be able to play.

[jcmark611]

You know, this topic reminds me about my last gf. I have not been in a gigging band for several years becuase I just don't have the time due to work. Anyways, while we were dating my GF went with her friends to see a battle of the bands play at her college. There her friends intro'd her to one of the bands and she ended up talking to their drummer. Long story short, she lives with him now and I am seriously considering finding a job that gives me time to play gigs!

[crusty]

Well, if this chick http://www.greatkat.com is any indication of the future...:eek:


That site is just plain hilarious.. or pathetic.. I can't make up my mind :wuerg:

[Asperjames]

Well, if this chick http://www.greatkat.com is any indication of the future...:eek:

I'd rather female guitarists model themselves after someone like Joni Mitchell or Nancy Wilson.

oh my god...



i actually found that quite amusing :eek:

[Slipstream]

Well, if this chick http://www.greatkat.com is any indication of the future...:eek:

I'd rather female guitarists model themselves after someone like Joni Mitchell or Nancy Wilson.She'd be hot if she lost the teeth and makeup. :toohappy:

[GuitarGretta]

She'd be hot if she lost the teeth and makeup. :toohappy:

I think the point is she doesn't want to be hot. Honors graduate from Juliard, hell who needs hot? I think she would rather go for twisted humor :eek:

[Slipstream]

"Twisted" is a good word for it. Reminds me of Elvira (when she was young).

[Fender Floyd]

I was looking at it until it paused my music and started playing the sites music. I don't like being interupted half way though Wish You Were Here.

[Rydain]

Quote from Ozzy Osbournes tribute to Randy Rhoads:
"Guitar players have a thing where their guitars are an extension
of their penis. With Randy, he was an extention of his guitar."

Personally I could care less about what's going on around me or
how cool I look when I'm there busting out my best music. Guitar
playing to me is an art and a controlled power that can be unleashed.
Besides there's only one girl I'll ever love or touch and that's my
sweetheart. Even though she's too caught up in junk like Creed
and Green Day, she can still play me like a guitar. :)

[shiggity]

I think that if god thought of sex as a sin he wouldnt have us calling out his name during sex! :D

by the way this is my "O" face :eek:

[SkanderH]

I've played both keyboards and rythym guitar in gigs, but 80% of the time keyboards. It seems to me that girls will be attracted to musicians in this order:
- Lead singer (regardless of wether he plays an instrument or not)
- Lead guitarist
- Bass player (the size of a bass probably induce some freudean reaction)
- Drummer (the muscles)
- The people helping out with equipment, or roadies if it's a touring band (usually because they enough time to talk to the girls while the other guys are busy performing)
-...
-...
-...
- Rythm guitarists and keyboard players
How good a musician you actually are is irrelevant, stage presence is everything

[crusty]

I think the point is she doesn't want to be hot. Honors graduate from Juliard, hell who needs hot? I think she would rather go for twisted humor :eek:

I judged too quickly. She has tallent for sure. I just don't (personally) like the image she portrays. I may be an old fart but I don't think she'll be too successful until she tones the sluty image down a bit. I'm definitely going to listen to her version of the Wagner's "The Ride Of The Valkyries" (Wagner's one of my favs)!

[dkitt]

I judged too quickly. She has tallent for sure. I just don't (personally) like the image she portrays. I may be an old fart but I don't think she'll be too successful until she tones the sluty image down a bit. I'm definitely going to listen to her version of the Wagner's "The Ride Of The Valkyries" (Wagner's one of my favs)!

She's even funnier in an interview. She rants and raves endlessly about how shes the greatest shredder in the galaxy - and then when the interviewer dares to compare her to anybobdy else (like Malmsteen), she threatens to bite his dick off.

I'm only exaggerating a little...

[GuitarGretta]

Oh god, nothing worse than an egomaniacal slut! Slut I can handle, but I really hate big egos!!!

[derwoodski]

Oh god, nothing worse than an egomaniacal slut! Slut I can handle, but I really hate big egos!!!
damned ego anyway ....where is Freud when you need him....LOL

[SGshredder]

i'm reading The Dirt right now. It's my favorite book in the world!! I just saw Crue in concert, and they're in my top 5 definitely. people can argue that they wer a bunch of crackheads who almost killed themselves (in Nikki's case he DID for a minute) but they got so many girls they didn't know what to do with, and it inspired them to record some great music. so, even if you're not in it for the sex, the experience itself can reap its own benefeits.

[supercobra]

I liked the look. I got wood.
Whatever it takes to break through.

[Big Cheeze Dee]

i say if ur in a band....and the chciks dig u

get as many as u can before u turn 27 and burn out! :headbang:

[gtrhrcane]

Well, I'm probably not the norm.... so whay start now?? :D

I'm guaranteed a girl every time I'm done with a show, and I'd bet my left one that I'm going home with her after every show too. Of course, she IS my fiance... :D

Other than that... If I wasn't with her... hmmmm.... would be a very interesting topic... I'm sure if I ever hit the road for real, I'm going to be playing shows where my girl is not there. I am a guy, and I love a good looking woman, tho I'm not the caliber that would go home with 'em. At least not while I'm with her. It's not worth it to me, she's truly on in a million and it would be a shame to throw that all away.

[crusty]

Hmm.. playing at a wet t-shirt contest is a good idea. I'll write that one down...

[zappatude]

but one thing I learned is that the MAJORITY of all those girls were so lonely or in such need of affection and acceptance, that they would give their most precious possesion. How you handle that situation and how you leave that woman feeling about herself means a lot.
Just in case you might have just skimmed over lazy bees' post. I really thought this was worth a quote.

[fish]

^^ Was about to quote it after I read it but zappa beat me to it.
Tis too true, all fun and games on the surface, be careful about what you do and to who.

[Etingi]

i say if ur in a band....and the chciks dig u

get as many as u can before u turn 27 and burn out! :headbang:

Hmm... did Kurt Cobain cross your mind at all while writing that?

Just curious...

[Rogue Axel]

Yeah, as a bass player, you dont pick up the chicks like a normal singer or lead guitarist does.

[RAT]

I have played the A circuit on the road for many years and there was, every time, the availability of women of all descriptions that many of the band members had their way with, mostly not caring about what lazy bee said about how you leave them behind. I somehow managed to be faithful to my wife (usually always at home) for 23 yrs. preferring to keep my eyes on my guitar neck (as I must do to keep my music at its best) but one night in Va. about a year and 8 months ago I was drawn to and approached by a beautiful woman, not the band groupie type, matter of fact had never done anything like that before, but we were attracted together like magnet and steel, it felt like it was our fate, destiny to be together, ended up in my motel room eventually and we have been together ever since. I left my wife and kids for this woman, which was a bad choice for their sake. Altho we have a strong love and awesome relationship, the consequences have definitely NOT been worth it. My advice to all musicians is to put music first, be faithful to your mates, even more to your kids, dont let drugs,alchohol, etc. cloud your decisions, stop and think before you let the girls at the gigs catch your eye. If you are single, then go for it but be safe, as for you religious freaks, stick to using your hands, but dont preach to me.

[ProGuitarN00b]

Yeah, as a bass player, you dont pick up the chicks like a normal singer or lead guitarist does.

You get the exotic, mysterious ones, rofl


I'd Rather burn out than fade away. ~Kurt Cobain

[PerianArdocyl]

(on getting girls at gigs)

I got a gal once at a gig. She sent me camp mail saying she wanted to be just like me.

Chalk one up for the hippie accoustist! :D:D:D

[ModestCargo]

(on getting girls at gigs)

I met my current girlfriend at a gig.
Actually I met the previous one at a gig too.

After I play a gig I feel like I'm 10 feet tall and have a ton of confidence, and the girl is usually already impressed anyway, so it's not hard for me to go say hello and usually get a phone number.

[aussie_skater]

To bad it isnt the 80's anymore. then chicks would dig you no matter what if you played.

I agree... girls these days hate rock music, they r all into hip hop and **** like that, at least most of em r anyways. besides... i couldnt get a chick if i wanted 1, the drummer and singer r bloody show offs. well... drummer isnt. hes a ladys man, singer thinks he can sing but he cant so he always trys to play stuff on guitar he gets from tab sites, and the girls thinks hes so good, cant wait till my impro sounds sick as.. heh heh heh

[PerianArdocyl]

(on getting girls at gigs)

Hooray, I've started a trend! :p

[mk-ultra]

You get the exotic, mysterious ones, rofl


I'd Rather burn out than fade away. ~Kurt Cobain


kurt stole that line from neil young

[ModestCargo]

Yeah, that was Neil's quote.

[SlinkyWormer]

Just in case you might have just skimmed over lazy bees' post. I really thought this was worth a quote.

hmmmm...Good Quote!

[Plstrcast]

While we play music because we love it, I think the issue of meeting the opposite sex while gigging is an important topic. I'd like to hear your stories of success and failure meeting women on the road. I'm not comming from the perspective of looking at women as a commodity. Its just that, the search for your muse often leads to meeting girls. The gigging situation is often a rich opportunity because it can serve to maximize your appeal. Nothing is as cool as parlaying a strong musical performance into an opportunity to meet someone who really knocks your socks off.

Failure???
failure is NOT an option Mr!

[jaqkuraj]

From a female musician tour hag:
I have found that touring makes me weary and blue after the initial rush.
Playing a different town in a different country every other night can really wear a girl out. I begin to miss all the good things that my home has to offer like a waking up late in my bed on a Sunday morning and having breakfast with my man and the kids.
By the third week on the road I can't wait to get off tour and go home.

[Freyr]

Well, from my experiances...

I've had a girlfriend the entire time I've ever giged :P So I guess I can't really contribute much. Besides the fact that I know shes in the crowd going "The guy with the guitar, he's my boyfriend". BUT... my bandmates have picked up afew chicks here and there, usually one night stands type of thing, except for our drummer, he got into a long term relationship from meeting a girl at a show (oddly enough, she's also a drummer).

Either way, meeting people while giging is always super fun... if it's for a quick lay or just friendship.

[Vintage Picker]

Kudos to ya, brother, for doing what you believe is right.

[Nameless]

Spidey-
You bet its despicable. But, like the Zappa quote that Stonedragon has attached to his emails, its all about raunch.
My mom's friend got hit on by frank zappa when she was 16...she had no idea who he was and slapped him though (I'm not joking ask anyone who knows her)

[GuitarownzU]

No sex till marriage herehttp://www.zentao.com/ubb/smilies/smile.gif

Haha after the first couple years of marriage dont expect alot of sex

[HeavyMetalKing]

All the chicks flock to me because I am the coolest kid EVER.

[Ghostrider]

I was playing a gig at a frat party once and during a break two VERY hot, and fairly drunk blondes (Maybe twins?) came up and were hitting on me. We hung out for a while and I told them I would play a song for them in the next set.

The whole set they stood right in front of me. When it came time for the panty dripper song (bittersweet by big head todd) they were clearly getting hot and bothered. Then the bad part: after getting them all worked up, two guys came up and started bumping and grinding with them. I had to keep playing and watch while they swooped in and left with both of them!

AaaaaarrrrG!!!! :mad:

[Tingly]

LOL!!!!

Oh, that must have been terrible, Ghostrider!

But that's a funny story!

[shredderkid25]

no advice just a word of warning, beware

[SKEETER]

Forget about all that macho ***** and learn to play guitar.
I get hit on by young women all the time playing music. I am quite happily married and not interested, but I find it strange that 20 year old girls pay an old fart like me much attention. I couldn't score in a whore house with a bag of coke and a 50 dollar bill, it MUSt be something about that guitar. Gotta be.

[Slight Return]

I'm only 16. I don't have any experience with ANYTHING involving girls. My social life is virtually nonexistent, and that's probably because I spend the vast majority of my time playing my guitars. I used to jam with a drummer, and he ditched me and formed a couple of new bands, the first one he ditched and the second one in which he is playing in at the battle of the bands at my school relatively soon. I don't know if they get girls, but I'm pretty ******. He wouldn't even do the talent show at my church with me for crying out loud! I guess I'd like to be recognized for playing guitar, but I don't know if that's too much to ask.

[scott powell]

Our guy singer gets the chicks, i get the guitar bozo's who want to play my guitar,or ask about amps and such

[Akanild]

^ So true :p

[Arc]

Nobody cares about me....

[FruscianteFan62]

I'm only 16. I don't have any experience with ANYTHING involving girls. My social life is virtually nonexistent, and that's probably because I spend the vast majority of my time playing my guitars. I used to jam with a drummer, and he ditched me and formed a couple of new bands, the first one he ditched and the second one in which he is playing in at the battle of the bands at my school relatively soon. I don't know if they get girls, but I'm pretty ******. He wouldn't even do the talent show at my church with me for crying out loud! I guess I'd like to be recognized for playing guitar, but I don't know if that's too much to ask.


That pretty much sums up my situation. I'm in a band at school but we're not real friends. I pretty much just listen to music and play guitar all day. I'm really shy and find it hard around girls. The closest I've ever come to being with a girl is holding her hand...and that was during a group prayer. I am really a loser. Can you sig yourself?

[SKEETER]

That pretty much sums up my situation. I'm in a band at school but we're not real friends. I pretty much just listen to music and play guitar all day. I'm really shy and find it hard around girls. The closest I've ever come to being with a girl is holding her hand...and that was during a group prayer. I am really a loser. Can you sig yourself?
Son, you are not only not a loser, you are the epitome of a young man that is ABOUT something. Far better someone to be like you than to be like the shallow people whose most important goal in life is to be the most popular or to get laid. Those things fade with age, but the love of music you take with you all the way to the grave. The nice thing about music is, you can leave what you accomplished with it to others.

[FruscianteFan62]

self confidence +1

[Vash03]

level up!

[bloodhand]

I played my first ever "rock" gig a couple of days ago (I once played about 4 jazz songs at a golf club) and as I started packing up me gear some girl came up and got me to sign her tit. What a warm welcoming to the live music scene.

[ForeverWritten8]

Warning - do not read if you are intolerant of other people's views or if you are religious follower to the point where no debate can be allowed. My intent is not to cause a flame war or to upset anyone but to state what I consider to be an important point.

I respect everyones right to an opinion, but I personally have absolutely no respect for the "no sex before marriage" line I'm afriad as I feel that young people who get shackled before they have had some 'life experience' are the ones who mostly end up divorced and usuallly with a whole cart load of kids who suffer enourmously.

I feel religion screws up too many peoples lives already. It places this ridiculous emphasis on sex as being evil. The fact is that religion is a relic of the dark ages when it was used as a way to control and oppress the populace. The ecstacy of the sexual release was a big threat to that domination. It's the same thing with the whole guilt thing of confessionals etc. Pure oppression and in my mind that is evil.

There is nothing wrong with two young people falling in love and enjoying sex. Why should they be forced to commit to each other till death when they are so young and inexperienced just so they can enjoy each others love? There are lessons in life that have to be learnt, like winning and losing, being let down and carrying on etc etc. Human relationships take time to master and young people are really in training for the responsibility of providing a stable environment for the raising of children ie marriage.

A young man should sow his wild oats a bit while he is young (thats what University is for). It is by doing that that he may better appreciate his wife when he does get married and not be looking over his shoulder for the rest of his life. This applies to ladies too. If you marry a woman who has never had another man in her life then sooner or later there's likely to be trouble.

Whats wrong with a little warm-up before the game?

my apologies if any of this has been said before:
i do like that you are expressing your opinion and i am religious and have promised myself to not have sex before marriage, but i think by me explaining to you why us religious people do it, not because we're brainwashed by the other people in the church(btw i'm not catholic, so that rules out the confessionals for me)we actually want to follow God's law, which we believe is to be supreme, not saying it is, but that's what we believe, so please don't flame me for saying that, i'm just trying to bring the correct perspective into view here for you, and God's law says that sex before marriage is wrong, he made sex to be confined to the contents of marriage, it is not inherently evil, it is a beautifully intimate expression of love to your significant other, and i cannot wait until i do get to experience that, but just for the fact of oiling up your parts before marriage would decrease the special bond you and your partner would have if you both hadn't had sex before that alleged marriage. i think it would make it much more special, and you can argue with me, if you believe otherwise, please do, but i think it would mean so much more to share that moment with your spouse and it be that only person whom you share it with, and also i won't commit to someone unless i plan on spending my entire life with them, so i doubt i will be getting a divorce, i will give it much much thought and prayer, but i doubt you want to hear my mumbojumbo, so i'll stop, i just wanted you to know that i don't think marriage is evil, and neither does the teachings that i believe to be true, thanks for reading, hope you have a better idea of what my pledge really means. :smile: :smile:

[ForeverWritten8]

I played my first ever "rock" gig a couple of days ago (I once played about 4 jazz songs at a golf club) and as I started packing up me gear some girl came up and got me to sign her tit. What a warm welcoming to the live music scene.

haha bet you were ecstatic, huh? :p